Is Your To-do List Stressing You?

To-do lists are ineffective and overrated. They grow longer and longer as our days go by and you are left constantly, secretly wondering, “When will it all ever get done?” You have no real answer. You trudge forward with this impending doom of the never ending to-do list.

My advice that does wonders for me is to throw that list out. If your to-dos stay on a list, it becomes more stressful than helpful. Yes, it is necessary to consider everything that needs to get done. But those things are not meant to live in list form. They belong in a more meaningful and worthy place: on your calendar. Once you calendar each item on your to-do list, throw the list away!

Your to-dos are on the calendar, and you know that they will get done. In fact, you now finally have an answer to your previous question of when will it all get done, replacing that feeling of stress with relief.

Try it out now. Ditch the list and make time for the things you need to do. Instead of to-do, you will say, “Tada!” because you are finally getting things done.

Stay Tada-ing!

<3, Jess

How Magnetic is Your Game Changer

When deciding what goal to focus on, choose your game changer. This is the one that will have the most positive impact on your life. Before committing your energy to a goal, make sure it meets the two goal requirements–

GOAL REQUIREMENTS:

  1. It needs to be YOURS!
  2. It needs to be STRONG!

When you find your true game changer your motivation will be high (despite the natural fear) because you will have a great desire to make it happen for you. Work towards something that will pull you, not needing for you to push all the way there. When your goal is magnetic, you relieve the tension and the ride becomes more of a stroll rather than than a trudge uphill. Enjoy the ride babe!

Last night on The Mindful Glow Up we did some simple journaling to help zero in on what your game changer is and how to be certain that it meets both of the goal requirements. Check it out…

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Stay Strolling!

<3, Jess

When Your Mind will NOT Stop Racing

You have a million things to do and your mind is going at 100 miles per minute. Your heart starts to race it and your breath starts to shorten. What do you do?

The best thing to do when your mind is racing and will not stop is to give yourself a timeout. Here’s how to timeout effectively:

1. Out of Mind, On to Paper. First do a mass dump. You cannot carry everything on your own. Enlist your nearest journal and pencil to help with the load. Spill everything that is in your mind on to paper. Write it all down. It does not need to be formatted perfectly, does not need to make sense; just let it all out of you.

2. Take 5. Then give yourself 5 minutes to sit with yourself. You can set a timer or pick out your favorite 5 minute song. Notice your breath, how you feel, where you are right now.

3. A Girl’s Got to do what a Girl’s Got to do. After your timeout is up, take a look at your paper with all of your mind laid out on it. Proceed with what will have the most positive impact on your well being in this moment. Maybe that’s prioritizing your todo list and calendaring each item, or maybe that would be a nice, juicy nap. You decide because – well it’s your life. Do you, boo.

Just try it. You will notice a difference in how you feel.

Declare a ‘Do Less Day’!

WHAT IS A DO LESS DAY?

A Do Less Day is not a national holiday (but wouldn’t that be nice!?!). It is instead a personal commitment to take things a bit slower for a day.

WHY COMMIT TO A DO LESS DAY?

Our to-do lists are always 10-miles long, resulting in this impeding need to start checking boxes as soon as we open our eyes till the moment we settle back into bed (and often times we are still on ‘do more’ mode way past bedtime, allowing the white lights of our phones to demand our attention for a bit longer). Do less because operating on the normalized “do more” mentality leads to burnout, and burnout results in under productivity. How are you able to give your all to something when your well is empty? There wouldn’t be anything to give.

A great example of this is a computer. If you never turn off your computer, it will begin to run slow and some applications won’t even perform correctly. Once you turn off the computer and allow it to reboot, the performance increases tremendously. Our minds work in this same way. They are always on and working overtime nowadays, especially with technology as an increasing constant. Technology is growing in speed and our minds are expected to keep up without the same reboot! Give your mind the well-needed and often overdue reboot by doing less.

HOW TO TAKE YOUR DO LESS DAY TO THE NEXT LEVEL?

My fave addition to a Do Less Day is a bit of yoga (and not always in the traditional form). We touched on this idea in the most recent Sunday Slowdown, but I must repeat here; you do not have to take a yoga class to do yoga. You don’t even have to be moving physically to do yoga. Yoga in the simplest form is “the cessation of the modification of the mind”. The mind is constantly at work. Yoga gives the mind the opportunity to rest, giving it permission to chill tf out. The asana (yoga poses) are added as you draw your attention to the placement of your body and the rhythm of your breath. Moving INTENTIONALLY is key here! This can be done in an intense hot yoga class or sitting on the couch (and anywhere in between), by bringing your attention to your thoughts, emotions, breath, and body as you move about your day.

A bigger way to incorporate yoga is to of course get on your yoga mat. This (like everything else in your life) is a choice. If you choose to bring a physical practice into your Do Less Day, let your mat be your sanctuary for the entire time you are connected to it (whether it is for just 15 minutes or 1.5 hours). You can take a class at your local studio, or find a community class (check out the chocolate chip yoga list if you want to find some fun flavor), or follow along to a youtube video, or (my personal fave) just let your body flow however it needs to in this moment.

Recognize how you feel before, during and after your practice. I can guarantee you will feel a difference. Yoga is a form of mindfulness and self-care. In yoga, you are moving mindfully, intentionally with the breath. There’s always so much going on around us (so many things to do and places to see). Yoga gives you that opportunity to tune out; a gift of peace in such a busy world.

HOW TO GET STARTED?

  1. Declare a Do Less Day
  2. Mark your calendar
  3. Commit yourself to it.

A Do Less Day should not just be an annual commitment; I actually recommend making it a continuous celebration – monthly, weekly, or better yet daily. Try it out for one day (or even part of a day). Mark your calendars, and commit yourself to do less that day.

I’ll be taking a Do Less Day on Saturday and will be doing a bit of pampering on Sunday – Happy Mother’s Day to me! 🙂 If you tune in to the Sunday Slowdown this weekend, you will see me in all my green-face-masked glory as we talk more on this idea of a Do Less Day. Mud up your face with me if you’d like (wtf not!!?!?). This Sunday Slowdown will go live at 7:07pm on both Facebook AND Instagram @jessmkimbrough (if the technology goddesses allow). Catch you there!