How does your goal make you feel? Empowered or resistant? Does it feel exciting or burdensome? Take some time to really notice how you feel about it. [We will do some work together on this during this week’s Sunday Slowdown]
What if I am feeling nothing but resistant and/or the goal feels burdensome?
There’s a couple things that could be going on.
- This goal is not really YOUR goal. You have to be selfish when setting goals. Ask yourself, “Is this something I really want?”
- You do not have a STRONG enough reason. Know your why! Your reason for wanting to achieve this goal needs to align with your values. You may have a strong goal, but have yet to determine what your real reason is for why you want to achieve this goal. Go deeper with the toddler drill [fast forward to 11:35 in the video below for the how to on the toddler drill]. Ask yourself, “Is this something I really want?”
What if I feel excited and empowered by my goal, but there’s still some resistance and burdensome feelings coming up, too?
The resistance and burdensome feelings may actually be FEAR in disguise. There is a huge difference between fear and the other feelings like resistance. With the other feelings, you may need to rethink what you have chosen to be your goal. But if it is really fear that you are feeling, then know that you have chosen a good direction and just need to press forward. Do not cut yourself short by not going for a goal because of fear. Fear is natural, and is actually a good sign, especially when it comes to goal setting. That means that you have chosen a goal that actually matters to you and you know that it will make a real difference.
What if I have absolutely no fear about my goal?
Then there’s a bit of an issue. It is more than likely that your dream needs to be bigger – much bigger. Feel the fear, then lean into it.
Stay Dreaming Big!